What Do We Trust When We Get Overwhelmed?
Such an interesting question…
One that is worth considering when you are NOT overwhelmed!
For most of my life, the only thing that cuts through that sense of overwhelm is to remember what my life’s mission or design is. That knowing seems to refocus me almost immediately. All of us have a unique lens through which we observe life. This is often a source of frustration (It is so clear to me what “they” should do. They must be dense to not see it!) That is a perfect time to remember that all of us see the world differently, thus we all have a different stabilizing focus. Really!
The trick is to figure out what you see, what perspective you have, that others just don’t see. My husband, for instance, loves details and research. I appreciate details, but not at the depth he does. We have learned to navigate this difference later in our marriage. Early on it was a huge source of irritation. Now I can say, OK, enough detail. You are explaining all of this so I understand what? And then he laughs, and says, Oh yeah, too much detail. And I have learned to really lean on him when detail is called for, like which appliance is the best for our situation, or what’s the best route to take on a long drive we are about to take.
As you begin to see your perspective or mission in life, you may have the thought that this is not lofty enough. Or, you may think, well everybody knows that. But of course, they don’t. I have a client who always sees the scientific and spiritual properties and powers of chaotic situations. She used to be surprised that others did not and sometimes were not even interested. She took on learning how to gently illuminate the direction she was pointing to by asking thoughtful questions and being curious about what the other person was looking for. Turns out, as quoted by several people, you can’t be judgmental and curious at the same time. So, true interest/curiosity will often allow people to experience being seen, and when they are seen, they are more curious about what YOU see!
When we get overwhelmed, we often forget to take a moment to breathe and remember what is essential to us in this moment. Once you do this, that focal point will feel like it is coming from your gut, not your head. This focus came with you when you were born, by the way. It’s always been your way.
So, try listening for what is the unique focus that always calms and inspires you to reset and start again. It is always positive, always moving all of life in a new and better direction. And rely on this thing when you are overwhelmed. Return to it and stabilize, then start again from that place of stability.